We adopted from Novosibirsk 6 years ago through Luthern Social Services. Things have changed since we adopted...but i wouldn't change agencies or regions for the world.
Orphanage #1 gets half of it's operating budget from LSS donations, and they really do an excellent job with the children. Our daughter has no developmental delays, and her only issue has been adjusting to sleeping alone. Some part of her needs to have other children/people in with her, and i think a part of her will always remember sharing a room with many other children.
i seriously worried about bonding issues, as we received our referral when our daughter was 6 months but didn't get to travel until she was 10 months old. We've had no bonding or language issues. i may be in the minority but really it was a wonderful experience...except that you'd think southern Siberia in May would be cold. Wasn't. And i packed for cool weather!
I think the attachment issues are a possibility in any adoption, as are the sleeping issues. 10 months seems to be the usual age for international adoption.
I'm glad to hear yours was such a success! I think I am remembering the bad press from several years ago. If I go I will keep in mind that it isn't as cold as one might think.
We've had NO attachment issues, in fact it was the opposite. Kinder Goth attached to me on Day 4 and cried any time i put her down, gave her to someone else [like her Daddy!] or left the room.
Novo Orphanage #1 is staffed with people who genuinely care about the kidlings and i found it to be a nurturing environment. LSS arranged for the core staff to learn the Montessori Method and that's what they use. There are strange things, though, like water exercises twice a day. But it's all good because Kinder Goth came to us unafraid of water and she's a natural swimmer.
My understanding is that it requires two visits, and you don't get any advanced medical information anymore. However, i trust Dr Larissa [the center's head doctor] and i trust the care that my daughter received in her early childhood.
The lack of medical information is abit frightening. . .
you do get medical, just not upfront. Our daughter's diagnosis was strange...an extra chord of the heart observed on ultrasound...
We gave her videotape and medical info to a doctor who specializes in reviewing medicals for foreign born adoptees. Told us that someplaces give kids a medical diagnosis that will help disqualify them from being adopted locally WHILE helping them be adoptable by foreign couples 'to seek advanced medical treatment.'
In our daughter's case, she's not pure Russian and may have faced a lifetime of discrimination based one her ethnicity. Though how anyone could be mean to a child with sallow skin, dark brown eyes, and black wavy hair, i have NO IDEA. i've been following the news in Russia though, and anyone who appears to be an ethnicity other than Russian has a hard time of it.
:: happy sigh :: i love my daughter.
Anyhoo, i can sincerely state that we had a very positive experience in adopting from Russia. i know people who adopted from China and had a great experience as well. Good luck!!
Hi - I know I've posted this on this community already, but I just wanted to double check: 1. Is your daughter Romany (Gypsy)? 2. If so, are you part of the listserv for parents of Romany adoptees? Please let me know :-) Thanks!
No, my daughter is Kaz and Tajik. However, couple that we traveled with adopted a Rom child...the orphanage director said he had quite a temper due to his 'hot gypsy blood'.
Yeah...that doesn't surprise me (about the orphanage director). They see what they want to see and it's often completly absurd. Anyway, if you still have a contact for this couple or even for your agency, I'd be really grateful if you could let them know about the project and send them my contact: email@example.com
Happy new year!
Hi again, I checked out your LJ. Can I friend you?
Just out of curiousity, have the wait times for Vietnam gone up recently?? We're thinking about starting the adoption process again in a few months, and was just wondering what your take is on the Vietnam front! :)
I do know in the not so far past Russia has some issues with recertifing agencies, and having potential adoptive parents doing extensive medicals in country. But I'm not sure on all the details of that stuff! :)
The waits for Vietnam have increased. We are on a 4-6 month waiting list. We can not even do just the paperwork until we are off the waiting list! The agency is also nervous that there could be unforeseen problems and delays because the programs are relatively new. Vietnam just reopened to adoptions last year. They indicated there was a small risk that the whole program could be suddenly suspended before we are able to complete the process. They encouraged us to do the China program instead, but we don't meet the new criteria due to divorce and remarriage restrictions.
I found your comment. I am russian-french leaving in Paris, but if you need any help, let me know, as I am planning to adopt 2 kids from Russia and I am keeping the contact with a banch of volonteers and orphanage directors.
2009-04-15 10:42 pm (UTC)
Re: russian adoptions
Лариса, добрый день!
расскажите, удалось ли Вам усыновить ребенка?
мои друзья живут в Англии (двойное гражданство) просто в тупике - не знают, ка ким усыновить ребенка из России. Могли бы что-то посоветовать?